A comparisons test that most people flunk

One of the worst things my current Boss ever said to me was “The best thing you have going for you is that you are such a gosh darn likable guy.” It is a lie of course. And what’s worse, it is a lie that my boss believes. Worse yet, he believes it in part because I sometimes deliberately foster the illusion that I am a likable guy.

At some point in my life, I learned that it was advantageous to make people believe that I was a likable guy. I learned that was the way for me to get ahead in life with the least effort. And I am by nature a lazy man.

Ironically, it is because of my laziness that relatively few people who have been around me for any length of time are under any illusions about how likable I am. It takes effort to disguise one’s true nature and I don’t like to put out effort for long. Indeed, for many people, I never even bother trying to make the effort. So my true nature quickly becomes apparent.

But my boss is not a very perceptive man. I don’t know how many years it would take for him to truly know me. I suspect that it might be impossible for him to ever understand me.

The ironic thing about this is that he is truly a likable man. He does not have mean bone in his body. Especially in comparison to me. But fewer people like him than like me because he does not understand people. This means that my boss cannot fake being something that he is not. And very few people like someone who is real all the time.

And for that reason, I don’t have much regard for what people like.

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